5 things I learned in 2017

  1. I learned to equip myself before disaster happens. We hear people say, “you don’t know how you’d react in this situation until it happens.” Which is true, but I learned that it is important to know how you will react to something before it happens and prepare yourself for it. It is easier for us to prepare our bodies for old age by eating well and exercising. It makes sense to us to prepare for snowstorm or hurricane but rarely do we prepare ourselves for emotional traumas. I’m not saying live in fear of something bad happens but know what you going to do when suffering happens.
  2. I learned that morning always come.
  3. I learned to allow people to be humans. Meaning, humans are fragile and flighty. They break promises. They look out for themselves and their best interest. Humans fall short and it’s all okay. I learned to allow people to be all those things without taking it personal.
  4. I learned the meaning of the truth that God is good.
  5. I learned to be open about my feelings, whether it’s with people or in my journal. Mostly my journal. But releasing things from my heart to paper and also speaking about them out loud literally saved me. In my journal I’m pretty sure I’ve written about the same topic 50 times, can you imagine keeping those thought in my head? I would burst. Output is so important. Emotions will swallow you whole if you do not release. I learned to release.

What are some of your lessons from 2017?

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When Dimple met Rishi by Sandhya Menon Book Review 

issa book review! You can get When Dimple Met Rishi by clicking on the link. It is an affiliate link, so do purchase it through me, IF you want to read the book!!

My thoughts

First of all I really loved the cover of the book, that’s how I was drawn to the book to begin with it and also the attention it had gained over the summer. I think it was on EVERYONE’S reading list at some point this year. So I’m pretty late to the reviews, but you if you haven’t read it and you love coming of age stories, I think you will really enjoy it.

I really loved the topics Menon tackled and the different point of views. Dimple and Rishi are both first generation immigrants from India but their views were so different. Rishi desired to stay connected with his Indian roots and he was more traditional compared to Dimple who seem to want nothing or very little to do with tradition, and was more modernized. This was a relatable topic for me as an immigrant from Ghana who grew up in the states and just navigating through my various identities, especially when I was a teenager.

I also like how Menon tackled marriage and career. Even in 2017, I still think many people still believe that a woman can’t have both, which was Dimple’s dilemma. She thought she had to give up something she loved, either coding or Rishi. I think most women have been thought to feel that way and honestly sometimes, it is the case when kids come into the picture. Because they were teenagers just starting college, they were able to have both. I wonder if this book was about a couple in their mid-20’s or early 30’s it would have ended the same way for Dimple.

Things I didn’t really care for were the extra characters, the aberzombies, you know, the cool kids in highschool who didn’t have a single thought in their head and wore abercrombie and fitch like it was their uniform? I didn’t care for it because I never really cared for those people in highschool when I was there, ages ago. The truth is no one should have time for people whose ultimate goal is to make you feel bad about yourself, for something as vain as money. Not even their own money but their parents or grand-parents money at that.

I thought the book was funny and light. It was a good read. I will rank it 3.5/5

Summary from goodreads.com

Dimple Shah has it all figured out. With graduation behind her, she’s more than ready for a break from her family, from Mamma’s inexplicable obsession with her finding the “Ideal Indian Husband.” Ugh. Dimple knows they must respect her principles on some level, though. If they truly believed she needed a husband right now, they wouldn’t have paid for her to attend a summer …more

Have you read this book? What did you think?

A Thousand Splendid Suns by Khaled Hosseini

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Summary

Born a generation apart and with very different ideas about love and family, Mariam and Laila are two women brought jarringly together by war, by loss and by fate. As they endure the ever escalating dangers around them—in their home as well as in the streets of Kabul—they come to form a bond that makes them both sisters and mother-daughter to each other, and that will ulti …more

My Thoughts

you are the noor in my eyes and the sultan of my heart.

One of my favorite things about the books were all the potential quotes I can write out and use. It was so full of wisdom. Lets get into the book then…

This book completely rocked my world. The novel is a fictional work but the historical events are not which makes me think that it is possible that people actually went through what the characters in the book endured.

I felt for Mariam’s character the most because even her happy ending wasn’t really happy. She had a mentally unstable mother who commits suicide, a father who openly rejected her and married her off to a man about 3 times her age. She loses 6 babies and is brutally abused by her husband, she has to tolerate a second wife, eventually kills this man and is put to death. But in the end, she is glad that she is dying the way she is. Her acceptance of her death broke my heart just because I was hoping for some type of miracle at the end. Some kind of escape. I guess the reality that you can endure pain till the end of your life with very few laughter is what truly bothered me. That this can be anyone’s reality. I loved that Laila and Tariq found their way back to each other. With the way the story was going, I wasn’t sure there was going to be a happy ending for her either.

Most of us are very fortunate that we come from or live in nations where war isn’t literally at our back door. Some of us have never or will ever experience the sound of bomb or see the body parts of our loved ones blown to pieces before our eyes. But there are people in certain parts of the world who are not as fortunate, people who don’t rejoice over fireworks because it triggers something in them. I just weep and pray for everyone who has had to endure this type of trauma.

My favorite relationship in the book was between Mariam and Laila. The mother-daughter bond that was voluntary and not fueled by blood. Mariam’s commitment to Laila till the very end is the type of #goals I aspire.
Overall, I liked the book. It was so heavy however. Just one tragedy after the next. But a very well written book. Have you read it?