5 summer essentials for the minimalist

IMG_3392 (2)Summer 2017 is fast approaching so I thought I’d share my summer essentials with you. I usually see that people have so many items on their list but I just want to keep things simple and on an as needed basis. Here is my list:

  1. Deodorant- You should be using deodorant all year around but summer time is the most important season to make sure you are using it. If you are like me, you sweat like crazy in the hotter seasons and when sweat settles, it smells. So, take my advice and  protect your reputation and other people’s noses. Just kidding.
  2. Sun glasses- Because it’s stylish and protects your eyes. Need I say more?
  3. Body Spray or Perfume- Going with the smelling nice theme. I use body sprays in the summer because it lighter and carries a freshness with it, so it can be used through out the day.
  4. Tumbler cups- Because you need to be hydrated. I love these cups because it protects the cold beverage for a longer period. It’s also nice to have your own cup you carry as you go about the day so you can get a refill of water anywhere.
  5. Make-up removers- This may not apply to everyone but I keep make-up removers around just to wipe the sweat of my face, not make-up. haha. I am sweat monster, hence why most of essentials are chosen to combat sweat.

What is a summer essential for you?

Success is not a solo act

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For as long as I can remember, I’ve done everything by myself, for myself. I was one or I am one of those people who would rather go a day without eating than to ask a friend or family to borrow a few dollars. I’m not sure what my true motives were, but I always said to myself, ” I don’t want to burden other people, because they may have their own issues going on.” While a true statement, the fact is that, I thought I didn’t need help from others. I thought I had to be silent about my problems because people may rejoice over them.

Growing up I learned to keep my problems to myself. I learned not to share my troubles and to keep my short comings to myself. I was told outright and I learned mostly from peoples reaction to other peoples failures. I noticed that people really tried hard to hide their flaws and God forbid, if that flaw was exposed, that person was ridiculed.

A few anecdotes 

  •  A lady gave birth to a child with down syndrome, for a while she wouldn’t take the kid out. When she finally did, people trashed talked HER for giving birth to a child like that. 
  • Another was, when a lady’s husband cheated on her but of course she tried to hide it, when it was out in public she was ridiculed.
  • Just going back to my primary school in Ghana, final results were posted in public and woe unto the person who came in last place. He or she would be called out in front of the whole school and the students will be ordered to “boo” the person. 

The truth

When I was younger, I thought nothing of these issues, all it reminded me off was to protect myself and not share my failures or downfalls.

Recently, I’v been learning about sharing. One thing my current pastor says a lot and preach a lot about is community. He always says,

You can’t do life on your own

This is the truth. Life isn’t meant to be done alone. We all need support systems, my friends have been pumping this into my head all weekend. You need to tell people you are struggling with finding employment, they may not be able to hand you a job but they’ll know to make connections when opportunities come up. You need to tell people how you’re feeling, they may not be able to fix the problem but they can tell you that you are not alone or simply be a listening ear.

Another one of my issues with seeking help was, I thought help had to look a certain way and come from certain people. But another truth is that,

support may not look like how we imagine

So, we have to be open to how support shows up in our life and embrace it when it does show up.

Tell me about your support system? How do you show up for people in your life?

5 Ways to Get Yourself Out of a Funk

aqua safari GhanaSome of you may know know that the last 2 years have been tough for your girl, and if you don’t know, it’s written all over this blog. So it may not surprise you that I’ve HAD to come with ways to get through these rough times. I’ve HAD to y’all.

I think we will all agree that there is nothing tougher than going through hard times when hope seems far away. But let me tell you something that I think is even tougher. Picking yourself up out of the funk. Literally bending down with your aching back, tired arms, bruised hands, holding on and DRAGGING yourself back up. THAT is hard. It’s less painful and much easier to drown in your sorrows. Today, I will be sharing my tips on how to get through the pain and pick yourself up. Definitely easier said than done but it works.

  • Having quiet time

For me, the most effective way to pick myself up from the dump is some alone time. My alone time consists of sleeping, reading and praying and it HAS to happen in a clean space. I just use this time to sit with my thoughts about the situation that has left me in this state and really listen… I think when you are in pain and you have people around you, in their attempt to console you, plenty advice is dispelled and I just think is is hard to take it all in. But I think praying or reading your bible and sitting in silence allows you to clear your mind. Also a really good book or even a bad one can help you clear your head. I’m also all about journaling, its one of my favorite outlets.

  • Taking long aimless walks

I don’t think there is anything that can remind you of how small you are like nature. When I go on my walks and I see everything and everyone around me, I am reminded of how I play a very small role in this big big world. Not trying to invalidate anyone’s problems but I think sometime the world outside ourselves let us know of how small our our problems really are.   img_9808

  • Working out

I do not like working out. In fact it is something I can say I hate. But it makes me feel so light, emotionally. When I am struggling with feeling good, working out has a way of relieving me of the pain or stress I am feeling. I know there is a scientific word for it but I can’t be bothered right now. But seriously, I think doing some kind of exercise allows you to release the tension and emotions from your body. Also, you sleep really well when you are sore.

  • Hanging out with people

This year, I’ve learned the importance of hanging out with people, friends. Last year, I joined a small group- a small community of Christians who meet to talk about GOd and life- but I never really did anything with them. I would go to the bible studies alright but I wouldn’t partake in any of the activities held outside of bible studies. In contrast, this year, I have been involved and really made a decision to go out with my small group and get to know some of the people I pray with or hang with. it has been such an escape for me and I am absolutely glad that I’ve been making the decision to go out more.

  • Taking extra time to get ready

I’m my most put together, when I don’t really feel “put together” on the inside. I think for me, the effort it takes to put on make up, wear clothes that require ironing and maybe some heels, make me feel like not everything is lost. And they say if you look good, you feel good, or something like that.

What do you do to get out of the funk? I could use it