may joy meet you in the morning

IMG_1982 (2)Happy New Month

early in the morning, I will celebrate the light, when I stumble in the darkness, I will call Your name by night

In my last post I wrote about how tough the last few weeks have been, you can read about it HERE. Usually, I leave it all here and don’t come back to tell about my okay days, and the mornings when joy met me by the time my feet touched the floor.

God has been showing up

But in unexpected ways.

At my lowest, sometime last week, I kept repeating to myself, ” I have no one, I absolutely have no one.” but I know this is a lie. There was this battle in my heart, where I wanted to keep saying “I have no one” but I felt in my heart that i really didn’t believe it and it was the enemy willing me to say it enough so I would believe it.

you can have all this world, give me Jesus

My hearts desire

Everything isn’t all of sudden perfect, God didn’t perform some magic trick and all of sudden my life was golden. God didn’t make the pain go away. But what God did was remove the hopelessness from my heart and replace it with peace. God gave me strength to wake-up and accomplish the tasks before me with a clear mind, I still cried when I laid down, but I got shit done. God gave me a song and he softened my heart and I was able to let go of my pride.

I don’t know how tomorrow is going to look like but today, I am okay. I am okay with the mess and the tears. I am okay with the sadness, and hopeful that it will pass. I am okay with the fact that tomorrow might be a struggle but thankful that God is already there waiting to meet me and hold me.

God is good. I am thankful that I know this truth…

You have no rival, You have no equal, now and forever God you reign. Yours is the kingdom. Yours is the glory. Yours is the name above all names.

I just pray peace over anyone who stumbles on this post. I pray for peace and grace in whatever situation you’re going through. I pray the Lord will give you rest, and that you find joy in the morning.

 

 

5 Ways to Get Yourself Out of a Funk

aqua safari GhanaSome of you may know know that the last 2 years have been tough for your girl, and if you don’t know, it’s written all over this blog. So it may not surprise you that I’ve HAD to come with ways to get through these rough times. I’ve HAD to y’all.

I think we will all agree that there is nothing tougher than going through hard times when hope seems far away. But let me tell you something that I think is even tougher. Picking yourself up out of the funk. Literally bending down with your aching back, tired arms, bruised hands, holding on and DRAGGING yourself back up. THAT is hard. It’s less painful and much easier to drown in your sorrows. Today, I will be sharing my tips on how to get through the pain and pick yourself up. Definitely easier said than done but it works.

  • Having quiet time

For me, the most effective way to pick myself up from the dump is some alone time. My alone time consists of sleeping, reading and praying and it HAS to happen in a clean space. I just use this time to sit with my thoughts about the situation that has left me in this state and really listen… I think when you are in pain and you have people around you, in their attempt to console you, plenty advice is dispelled and I just think is is hard to take it all in. But I think praying or reading your bible and sitting in silence allows you to clear your mind. Also a really good book or even a bad one can help you clear your head. I’m also all about journaling, its one of my favorite outlets.

  • Taking long aimless walks

I don’t think there is anything that can remind you of how small you are like nature. When I go on my walks and I see everything and everyone around me, I am reminded of how I play a very small role in this big big world. Not trying to invalidate anyone’s problems but I think sometime the world outside ourselves let us know of how small our our problems really are.   img_9808

  • Working out

I do not like working out. In fact it is something I can say I hate. But it makes me feel so light, emotionally. When I am struggling with feeling good, working out has a way of relieving me of the pain or stress I am feeling. I know there is a scientific word for it but I can’t be bothered right now. But seriously, I think doing some kind of exercise allows you to release the tension and emotions from your body. Also, you sleep really well when you are sore.

  • Hanging out with people

This year, I’ve learned the importance of hanging out with people, friends. Last year, I joined a small group- a small community of Christians who meet to talk about GOd and life- but I never really did anything with them. I would go to the bible studies alright but I wouldn’t partake in any of the activities held outside of bible studies. In contrast, this year, I have been involved and really made a decision to go out with my small group and get to know some of the people I pray with or hang with. it has been such an escape for me and I am absolutely glad that I’ve been making the decision to go out more.

  • Taking extra time to get ready

I’m my most put together, when I don’t really feel “put together” on the inside. I think for me, the effort it takes to put on make up, wear clothes that require ironing and maybe some heels, make me feel like not everything is lost. And they say if you look good, you feel good, or something like that.

What do you do to get out of the funk? I could use it

Showing up in your life

I remember saying to one of my friends, “If you tell me you will be there, then I will for sure show up.” I wanted to go for a run, okay let me stop lying, I wanted to go for a jog, actually a walk, right? But I knew I wouldn’t commit to it unless my friend was going to be there. That settled it, I was going to go, so I don’t fail her or disappoint her. I was committed to her and so I knew I had to be there, I knew I had to show up.

I’ve been thinking about showing up lately, showing up for myself to be precise. Before I go any further, I know millennials are obsessed with “do what you like” attitude. I don’t think anyone should just do whatever they like, it is selfish and it shows that you lack self-control. So no, this isn’t about doing WHATEVER it is that you like but committing to showing up for ourselves. We’ve already learned how to be there for people, so the positive or good things that we do for others, or encourage others to do, we need to give those things to ourselves. We are just as important.

For me, if any of my friends ask me to wake up at 5:00am to take them to the airport or do something for them, I wouldn’t think twice about it. But waking up at 6:00am t go work out, do something good for my mind and body, I will make so many excuses and  before I know it the day has passed me by.

Even in terms of work. I commit 8 hours a day to someone’s business, granted I get paid. But I can’t commit 2 hours to my own goals, even though that will provide me with the ultimate reward.

Along with that, isn’t it so funny how we do not mind spending money on our loved ones because we think they deserve it, but when it comes to buying something for ourselves, we go the cheap route? Maybe it is just me. But I am notorious for that. I will save up to buy someone something nice for someone, but I can never do so for myself.

I’m also not saying don’t do nice things for others, I’m just saying, do nice things for yourself too.

How I’m going to show up for myself is, when I begin making excuses not to do something, I will think about the most important person in my life, and ask myself, if this person wanted me to do this thing, would I make excuses or just show up for them? The answer will always be the latter. So because I am equally as important, I HAVE to show up for myself.

Showing up for myself means cultivating discipline, saying no, resting, and getting ish done even when I don’t want to. Showing up means not seeking validation from anyone, making myself happy, and getting through tough situations in healthy ways. Showing up for myself means no excuses. It means trying my best. It means not comparing myself to other people.

How do you show up for yourself?