5 things I learned in 2017

  1. I learned to equip myself before disaster happens. We hear people say, “you don’t know how you’d react in this situation until it happens.” Which is true, but I learned that it is important to know how you will react to something before it happens and prepare yourself for it. It is easier for us to prepare our bodies for old age by eating well and exercising. It makes sense to us to prepare for snowstorm or hurricane but rarely do we prepare ourselves for emotional traumas. I’m not saying live in fear of something bad happens but know what you going to do when suffering happens.
  2. I learned that morning always come.
  3. I learned to allow people to be humans. Meaning, humans are fragile and flighty. They break promises. They look out for themselves and their best interest. Humans fall short and it’s all okay. I learned to allow people to be all those things without taking it personal.
  4. I learned the meaning of the truth that God is good.
  5. I learned to be open about my feelings, whether it’s with people or in my journal. Mostly my journal. But releasing things from my heart to paper and also speaking about them out loud literally saved me. In my journal I’m pretty sure I’ve written about the same topic 50 times, can you imagine keeping those thought in my head? I would burst. Output is so important. Emotions will swallow you whole if you do not release. I learned to release.

What are some of your lessons from 2017?


Life lately: December 2017

What? It is December already? I am not complaining at all. I want 2017 to be over already. I thought 2015 and 2016 were tough but boy was I wrong. haha

The last time I wrote one of these was towards the end of October, so I guess I’m going to chat about life since then.

I’ve been pretty active on this blog but not as much as I wanted to be. I still have many drafts that need to be completed and posted and many ideas that I want to share. I’ve been trying to incorporate other things on this blog but I do not know how people will receive it so I’ve stopped myself. But I’m thinking I’m going to try anyways. I feel like my blog is really scattered and I want it to be really focused so I hope to figure it out before the New Year begins. Leave me feed back? I also need to change my about me and contact section.

Lately, I’ve tasted the bitterness (I use the word bitter a lot here, I’m sorry, I have no other words) of lost opportunities. I’ve always been one of those people that didn’t do this or didn’t do that and I wasn’t going to bend for any reason. But lately, my lack of flexibility have really bit me in the bum and it really sucks. It hurts. I’ve cried. I just really want tell you all to be really open in this life. I’m learning that myself. Seriously, date that guy or girl, move, take that job, go to that show, etc… Really. I’ve missed out on a specific opportunity twice and now its too late, and it my bitter pill to swallow, and it is not going down easy at all. But I’ve learned my lesson.

Speaking of taking chances. I have this big thing I am doing soon and I am scared. But more on that later.

I found out that my health isn’t that great and I have work to do. This is why I hate hospitals because they always give you bad news. haha.

I’ve also been reading about the Exodus of the Israelites. They were so funny. But such a reflection of who we are as believers these days. One day we are all God is good and then 5 minutes later, we complain about not seeing his goodness. I don’t know, but read Exodus in the Bible even if you aren’t a Christian, it is a really good story.

Life lately is me healing or God healing me and just putting all the broken pieces together. I am trusting Him for full and complete healing and I am hopeful it is going to come.

The greatest thing that has happened lately is, I became an aunt again!! With my sister’s permission, I will share a picture soon.

I have a new instagram. FOLLOW

How has life been lately?

On Libya

disclaimer: this is response is based on my very limited knowledge about Libya, the slavery crisis, Gaddafi, and the lack of a stable government in Libya. I haven’t studied this topic I’m just sharing my opinion.

This isn’t new

There have been talks about Libyans mistreating black Africans for a while now. I first heard about this in Ghana years ago. People were complaining that when they would travel from Ghana to Libya, they ended up being slaves or prostitutes. Most of these people got to Libya with an agent- a middle (wo)man who will promise them a job but after landing there, they find themselves as slaves or prostitutes. This has been happening for a while, I only say this venture into my next point…

The death of Gaddafi wasn’t the starting point

I am not sure where this thought process started, but in the last few days, I’ve heard so many people criticizing the West and especially Obama for causing this. The thought is that, because they went after Gaddafi and killed him, Libyans have taken the liberty to commit these atrocities. I don’t know about you, and I don’t mean to be insulting, but how does that make sense. This mistreatment of black west Africans in Libya was happening under Gaddafi’s nose. Just wanted to put that out there so you can form your conversations about this topic well. Thank me later.

The West has no power over a country without a stable government and why…

Powerful countries do not get involve in crises because of humanitarian reasons. I hate to sound cynical but the fact is, if a country like the USA gets involve with a developing country, it has an agenda and it is usually economical. I guess where I am going with this is, Libya has no stable government presently meaning there are several rebel groups feigning for power. So, lets say the UN or other powerful countries get involved, how would they know who to align with? the answer is they will align with a rebel group that they control. We’ve seen this happen so many times, who is to say it wont happen again.

The plea for the US and UK to get involved on social media

Social media many times get it so wrong. The US and UK cannot touch a rebel group, legally, and I’ll tell you why. Most of the time, these powerful countries have power to make change in developing countries only where there is a stable government in place and they enforce this change by imposing sanctions on the country. Without a stable government, who are you going to impose these sanctions on? a rebel group? come on.

The solution

I have a suggestion but lets get back to the fact that I know nothing, but I think one way to get these slaves out of slavery is their various countries making agreements or forcefully getting them back. I’m not sure how they can do it forcefully and I’m not really into violence, so… I don’t how it will look like. But I think Ghana should go for its people, Nigeria too, Gambia, etc… We as Africans need to take control over this situation.

thats all. This is Africa

update: Ghana has reported that many people have been rescued already

any thoughts