Taking Stock: April 2018

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Making : the days count. jk. I am not making anything at the moment. I wish I was making the days count, but listen when my money comes, I WILL be MAKING the days count. Until then…

Cooking : I made this really bomb chicken. It was wow!!so good. Need I brag more

Drinking : water at the moment, but I did have this margarita.

Reading:  Counterfeit God by Tim Keller and This is Me Letting You Go by Heidi Priebe. Just finished Still Me by Jojo Moyes, read the my book review HERE.

Wanting: MONEY! I need money. (same as the previous month)

Looking: for a job. (same as the previous month)

Deciding: Nothing at the moment. What?

Wishing: On a star?

Enjoying: OMG! this peace from God.

Waiting: For… it is a secret. it is like 3 BIG things.

Liking: No boys, men, uncles, brothers, people’s ugly sons. LOL etc…solidly single!! (same!! EVEN MORE!! WOW but yet I am still looking. Contradicting much?!)

Wondering: when is my man who is going to delight in me come? I’m praying about it. Maybe I should write a post about what I looking for in a man so you all can help a sister out? (same as January, February, March and very contradicting to what I wrote above.) MY NEXT POST?

Loving: Jesus the LIVING Christ. THE living Christ. THE I AM…

Listening: Housefires, “Yes and Amen” and I just really got into Jhene Aiko, she is fire!

Considering: Going to the gym or not. Or not!

Buying: nothing at the moment. Broke us af!! Still the same, but change issa coming and its going to be the realest. I’m going to be hauling the things I buy. hahaha. I’m pushing it

Watching: One Tree Hill for the third time. Because why not?

Hoping: in Christ ALONE!! All the time!! EVERYDAY

Cringing: at nothing really

Needing: money! haha. Mah-NEY!!

Questioning: NOT the goodness of God!!

Smelling: nail polish

Wearing: Day 3 clothes. But I’ve showered oh

Noticing: nothing

Thinking: nothing really. My brain is on vacation

Feeling: Loved. Loved by my sweet Jesus

Celebrating: nothing really

Pretending: none here

Embracing: this hope!

Do your own Taking Stock post and pinback? I’d like to see what you have been up to.

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5 Questions Before Your Next Relationship

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With all the #relationship goals going on, I think most of us single people who desire relationship can rush into something we really aren’t ready for and it will definitely ruin us it terms of our time and emotions. Below I’ve listed some questions I think you need to ask yourself before your next relationship, this is my guide as well.

  1. Am I healed from my last relationship? If you’ve never been in a relationship, you can skip this. But for the folks who have, you really need to do a self-assessment and really figure out if you are over the last relationship. Notice, I didn’t say if you are over the person. I think for most people, it is the relationship and its possibilities they hang on to not the person. So you really have to figure out if you are ready to have something completely new that isn’t like your previous relationship, not better than, but just different. Are you over the familiar and are you ready for change? does that make sense?
  2. What am I looking for in a person? When I was younger I didn’t believe in making a check-list of the person I wanted because I felt like I had to follow it to a T but that isn’t what I am saying. What I am saying is that, IF you are looking, you have to know what you are looking for. My pastor always say, you have to have  list of non-negotiable, these are things you will not compromise on, but we need not be strict on EVERYTHING on our list. But we do need a guide, so do write a list of what you want in a person.
  3. What am I looking for in a relationship? Similar to what I said above, list what you want your relationship to look like. If you want a relationship that looks like going to book store on a Saturday to just read, put that down. Trust me, I know a relationship is more than shared hobbies, but I’ve heard it really sustains a relationship. Also, define for yourself what it means to date and be in a relationship and whether you want marriage out of it or not. If you aren’t someone who wants to date for 2 years, definitely list that. That is something that you can compromise on, but make your desires known to at least yourself. That will at least let you know if you are giving up too much and deviating.
  4. Did I grow from my last relationship? I know we all like to blame a failed relationship on the other party because you know? it makes us feel good. BUT, deep down we all know we contributed to things not working out. Some relationships don’t end badly, sometimes it just ends because people didn’t put in effort or distance or whatever. So if distance was the issue, what you can learn from that is that you aren’t equipped to be in a long distance relationship. There is always something to learn about ourselves when a relationship end or even in a relationship.
  5. Am I willing and ready to put effort into finding someone? I don’t believe in relationships just falling in your lap as you sit at home. I know most people talk about “finding” someone when they weren’t looking. I think its sweet and its very true for people but listen, sis, bro, you need to put in the work. If you aren’t up for it, then you just may not be ready to be with someone.

I think answering these questions will definitely be a good deciding factor of whether or not you are ready for something new.

How did you know you were ready for a new relationship? 

Also, I will have a relationship post every Thursday for the next few weeks!!

Still Me by Jojo Moyes Book Review

Hi Friends,

It has been a little quite around here. I need to do better but I’m back with y’alls favorite, a book review. So late on this

Before you get into this, you can check the book reviews on Me Before You, HERE and After You HERE. Still Me is the third book in the series.

Synopsis from goodreads.com 

Louisa Clark arrives in New York ready to start a new life, confident that she can embrace this new adventure and keep her relationship with Ambulance Sam alive across several thousand miles. She steps into the world of the superrich …more

My thoughts

It took me forever to finish this book. Unlike the other Jojo Moyes books, I wasn’t pressed to finish it. A part of me wishes that she would have left us with Me Before You and avoided the other 2 books, but another part of me love following Louisa through her journey.

I think Jojo Moyes does a good job of recapturing the previous books for people who may not have read it. We are made to remember Louisa loss, the gift Will gave her, her meeting with Sam, Will’s daughter, etc… So I enjoyed that bit of the book.

I didn’t really LOVE the book but I enjoyed it for the most part. It felt like I was catching up with an old friend and she was just telling me about her life in a new city. I liked how Lou throughout the years branched out of her small world little by little and landed in the Big Apple. What?! I really loved how Lou regardless of what was going to happen to her kept Agnes’ secret but that is another thing I’ve always hated about Lou, she is made to appear to be some what of push over. Everyone come into her life and tries to dictate it, either aggressively or passively. The people that are meant to love her, love her half-assedly. (issa word) I was so frustrated with Sam and his selfishness.

Towards the end of the book, it appears that Lou finds herself and likes who she is. She tried to fit in the entire time and be everything for everyone but eventually she had to choose herself. It was also a good reminder on being kind. Her kindness towards people eventually paid off.

I would give this book 3 stars

Have you read Still Me? Did you like it?